How To Disciple Others

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Discipleship is mentoring, which is a one-on-one approach

  • Like all other leadership roles, you have to be the example of what you want to see in others
  • Have the right mindset
    • Have a passion to see the lost come to Christ (1 Corinthians 10:33,11:1)
    • Keep the heavenly prizes in focus (1 Corinthians 9:24-27, Philippians 3:12-20, Hebrews 11:24-26)
  • Keep staying faithful (Hebrews 6:11-15, Romans 4:16-21)
    • Believe in things that you can’t see as if you could (Romans 4:17)
    • Believe according to what God has spoken Romans 4:18)
    • Become preoccupied with the promise to the point that the problem doesn’t cause worry (Romans 4:19-20)
    • Give glory to God in advance and praise Him for the blessings before they actually happen (Romans 4:20)
    • Live free of anxiety (Philippians 4:6-9)
    • Listen to His Word and His Spirit and listen for His will (Isaiah 30:21, Mark 4:24)
  • Live rightly
    • Have integrity (Proverbs 20:7, Psalm 101:2, Job 27:5-6)
    • Work diligently (Acts 20:33-35, 2 Thessalonians 3:6-12, 2 Timothy 2:15)
    • Have a servant’s heart (Mark 10:35-45, John 13:3-17, Galatians 5:13, 2 Kings 5:20-27, Philippians 2:5-11)
    • Be gentle in all of your conduct (2 Timothy 2:24-26)
    • Obey God once you know what His will is (1 Peter 1:13-15)
  • Be discerning in who you choose to mentor
    • Don’t judge anyone from outward appearance (1 Samuel 16:6-7, 1 Corinthians 1:27-29)
    • A disciple needs to be faithful to God and teachable to what you’re saying
      • This doesn’t mean they don’t question you, but it does mean they aren’t needlessly rebellious
      • Some people simply want the attention or emotional support, but they’re not actually listening to the ones who help them
    • Don’t disciple someone of the opposite gender, it can easily lead to codependency or sexual immorality
    • Try to avoid discipling someone significantly older or a similar age to you, since it makes the relationship somewhat odd
      • Some younger people think that 2 years younger is technically younger, but they’re both in the same range of life experience
      • Technically, you are discipling your children as you raise them
    • Depending on the circumstances, it’s sometimes not wise to use the official title of “disciple”
  • Outside of your living example, you need to encourage, comfort and instruct (1 Thessalonians 2:11, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4)
    1. Nurture them in their new or relatively new faith (1 Timothy 1:2)
      • Put your time and energy into them like they’re your son or daughter
      • Don’t invest in their lives for any personal benefit (Proverbs 13:22, 2 Corinthians 12:14-15, 2 Peter 2:3)
      • Make the best of every opportunity (Acts 16:1-3,6,7, Titus 1:4, Philippians 1:8-21)
      • Invest into them (1 Timothy 1:18/4:14-15, 2 Timothy 1:3-6)
      • Delight in them and stay devoted to them (2 Corinthians 2:12-13, 2 Timothy 1:2-5, 3 John 4)
      • Remember to tend to your own spiritual growth (Deuteronomy 4:9, Ephesians 4:15, Philippians 3:12, 1 Timothy 4:12-16)
      • They need to learn:
        1. God is faithful and just to forgive (1 John 1:9-10,2:1,2:12)
        2. Not everything is as it seems (1 John 2:18-28)
        3. A person’s lifestyle shows their true spirituality (Matthew 7:20-21, 1 John 3:5-10)
        4. We must love in deed, not just in word (1 John 3:17-19)
        5. The devil doesn’t need to be feared (1 John 4:1-4)
        6. Idolatry is a real and persistent danger (1 John 5:21)
      • They are responsible to practice the truths that they’re taught (2 John 4, 3 John 4, James 1:22)
    2. Take time to show your example to them to set the pace (2 Timothy 3:10-11)
      • Reproduce yourself into them (2 Corinthians 12:14-19, Philippians 2:19-22, 2 Timothy 3:10-11)
      • They should know they have rights and privileges in God’s kingdom as they gain victories and boldly go forward in Christ
      • They should eventually succeed more than their spiritual fathers (Deuteronomy 30:5, 2 Corinthians 10:13)
      • Don’t become dictatorial, especially as they gain in knowledge (1 Peter 5:1-3)
    3. Make them your partner in ministry instead of subordinate (Romans 16:21)
      • Delegate to and release them (Colossians 4:7-9, Titus 1:4-13, 1 Thessalonians 3:1-7)
      • Depend on them to become mentors themselves (1 Timothy 4:12,16, 2 Timothy 2:1-2)
      • Don’t get jealous when your disciples out-succeed you (Genesis 37:9-11)
      • They should know everything you know, know the Father like a child and know that possession is nowhere near as important as relationship
      • Remember that they will never outgrow their need for prayers (Romans 1:17, 2 Corinthians 3:18, 2 Timothy 1:3, 1 Thessalonians 5:25, 2 Thessalonians 3:1, Philemon 22)
  • This is an act of endurance, not a one-time circumstance
    • Get ready to spend a lot of time giving input and sharing with them
      • In many ways, this will often become like a second job
    • There really is no retirement for a spiritual father
  • If you can disciple, then God may call you to a greater position of leadership

Be prepared for a leadership role’s additional responsibilities

  • To disciple others is noble, but don’t become a pastor/bishop/elder/overseer/whatever until you’ve sufficiently discipled others
  • Leaders have a harsher judgment than non-leaders (Matthew 18:6)
    • Becoming a teacher of Scripture holds you to a higher standard (James 3:1)
    • God doesn’t take a teacher’s role lightly (Acts 20:28)
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